Top 5 Mistakes That Sabotage Your Ability to Influence Others
Far from being an elusive art reserved for the charismatic few, influence is, in fact, a teachable and learnable skill. Yes, you heard that right! Just like learning a programming language, mastering the art of influence is about understanding its principles and practicing them diligently.
But why do some people seem to naturally excel at influencing others, while some struggle, often unknowingly sabotaging their own efforts? The answer most likely lies not in inherent charisma (or “rizz” like Gen Z likes to call it) but in their approach and mindset.
In my previous article, we talked about why influence without authority is a vital skill no matter what role you’re in. This week we’re tackling the most common mistakes I see people making when trying to influence others, and what to do instead.
We just wrapped up the first cohort of my course “Impact through Influence - Influencing without authority in engineering teams”.
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Now, back to the article. If you want to build influence and become more influential, try to avoid these common pitfalls.
Mistake #1: Trying to influence before having credibility
I was talking to a friend the other day and she was happy to share with me some good news: the ideas she unsuccessfully first pitched 2 years ago are now actually a significant part of the roadmap. When asked what made the difference, she simply said: “I showed that I can get things done. By building a reputation, I earned their trust”.